Why buying a house is the stupid idea for men in India !!


Generally, we have every right on what we buy. Nobody can deny our rights on it. In our life, house has very important role. Many people have sentiments on the house they own. People buy or build the house by spending lot of hard earned money and time. Many people feel emotional when they leave their own house or sell it. We do develop lot of affection. And most importantly, we assume, we have every right on that.

But those days were over sometime back. Now, you can be thrown out of your own house. And may be sometimes you are not even allowed to come near to it. It will be an offense and you can be punished for that!!

No, it’s not the work of land mafia or some supernatural power. That could be the work of your own family member, may be your beloved wife. Surprised?? Then I must say that your LawQ (law quotient 😛 ) is very poor. If you assume that law don’t allow this and you can get back your house using law, then I must say, you are living in wrong decade.

Your house can be occupied by your wife legally and you can be thrown out of it legally. The only difference is it’s not considered as occupying. Again surprised, then I must say about a law that came into force in 2005.

It’s none other than Prevention of Domestic Violence Act. Don’t be fooled by the name and come to a conclusion that it will protect every one from domestic violence. And don’t compare it with the laws already exist in some western countries.

This is a law that aimed to protect women and children from domestic violence. Men are not covered under this law, men are only perpetrators. And most of the times only women use this law not children. So, you can safely read it as “A law to Prevent Domestic Violence Committed by men on women and children”.

It is the law criticized by many including the supreme court as “A loosely drafted law”. It has many loopholes which can be exploited by unscrupulous women to harass husbands.

One of the important aspect of this law is right to residence for the women in the shared household. It doesn’t matter who is the owner of that house. So, she have the right to live in husband’s house. But, husband can live in it only if his wife permit him. If everything between man and his wife is well, then no problem. If not, it’s a big trouble for the man. She can simply file a case under DV Act and throw him out of his own house.

Of course, law don’t say this, directly. But it can be used that way. It is only made to protect women from the domestic violence. But to protect women, Men’s Rights can be sacrificed. Man can be sent out of his house, if court feel he is a threat to the wife. What a women need to provide as evidence to prove the man is a threat to her? nothing. She just need to file a case under DV Act, it is man’s duty to prove that he is not guilty of those charges.

Until he prove that, he may be barred from entering in his own house. May be surroundings where she live. Remember those accuses against men need not be true. They may be lies. But it is man’s duty to prove that. Even after proving that he is innocent, there will be no punishment for wife for filing false cases.

It’s not going to stop here. There is another law which is going to pass in one way or other way. That is IrBM (Irretrievable Breakdown of Marriage). As per that law women are going to get 50% of what ever the property that man have. Even his ancestral property also comes into picture. So, after this the man’s house may be shared equally. Or may goes to women as a part of sharing all assents. So, A house, not at all man’s property anymore. It’s bad Idea to buy a house.

Most of the times men (lower class to upper middle class) buy house or build their dream house by taking housing loans. Every month they have to pay some amount as an EMI. Assume a situation, in which the man thrown out of his own house and still he has to pay the EMI every month and has to pay the rent to newly taken house for him. But wife and her family happily live in his dream house. Everyone who is friendly to her can enter into it, but not the man who bought/build it. Many men are already facing such situations. It is going to be worse in future.

DV Act + IrBM = Throw husband out of his own house until court order  +  Later divorce him and get half of the house legally.

Then what is the good option? Just stay in rented house. Let the women buy the house with her property. If not, just stay with her husband in rented house. If she file a DV case against him, he will be thrown out of his rented house, of course, he has to pay the rent for that. That’s true. But which one is better? thrown out of your dream home or a rented house? definitely the second one.

So, my advice is never buy a house. Always stay in rented one. Let the govt build some houses and give them to rent for all the people in the country. So, every family in the country simply pay rent to the govt.  Or let the women buy their house stay without any problem with exclusive rights on that house.

Always remember don’t save too much money either. Just have a life and enjoy it. Don’t let someone take out your hard earned money in the name of empowerment.

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The biggest mistake that any man can do..!!


Three men met in the bar. They became friends because of their common friend “Scotch Whisky”. After sometime one man break his silence and started crying.

2nd Man: What happened? why are you crying? share with your bar-mates, buddy.

3rd Man: That’s true. If you share, you feel better.

1st Man: I am a gambler. I lost a lot of money in gambling. I sold my house to pay debts, I am a fool.

He said very sadly and apologetically.

2nd Man: That’s alright. We all do have some weaknesses. I too lost lot of money in IPL betting. It’s almost 10% of my entire property. You know, I am very much rich than you. What I lost is more than what you lost. So, I am the bigger fool than you.

1st Man: No, IPL betting is nothing is nothing if you compare it with gambling. You are little bit better than me.

2nd Man: No, Man. betting is worse than gambling. And that is the biggest mistake or sin that any man can do.

2nd man said little bit louder.

1st Man: Come on it can’t be true. Gambling is the worst. The biggest mistake a man can do.

1st Man also raised his voice and thumped the table to prove that he is damn serious.

After hearing this argument, 3rd man started crying.

Both 1st Man and 2nd Man surprised and look each others face.

What happened? why are you crying? both asked him.

3rd Man: Guys you both are very much better than me. You have weaknesses but I have none. I don’t smoke. I started drinking recently. Still, I lost my 70% of property. My kids don’t stay with me. I was thrown into jail for 2 months. I spend 5 years in legal battle, after that I give up and made out of court settlement by paying huge amount of money. My business also affected because of these and I am facing huge loses.

3rd Man stopped for a moment and asked, do you know what the mistake I have done?

1st Man & 2nd Man swung their heads horizontally and said “NO”.

3rd Man: My mistake is, I got married. After an year, my wife filed 498A case on me. I spend 2 months in jail, after that I got bail. I fought foolishly for 5 years, later made out of court settlement by paying huge money. Then she filed for divorce and demanded for 50% of share in my property and child custody. She got both and a bonus 20% of share in the name of child support. She went to US with my kids and settled there. After that only I started drinking.Now tell me guys, who is the biggest fool. What is the biggest mistake or sin that a man can do?

3rd Man became very emotional and started crying again.

After that 1st Man and 2nd Man didn’t talk. All of em just finished their drink and leaved the bar. From that day onwards, 1st Man and 2nd Man never cried and they never said gambling or IPL betting is the worst thing that a man can do.

PS: Right now other than losing 70% share in the property everything is possible and many men are facing this situation. But after IrBM pass in parliament, this entire story will become real and you just feel De javu after hearing plight of men one by one. So, Wake-up and oppose IrBM and all gender biased laws, and save yourselves and save your brothers and friends.

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